In other news, I watched a documentary the other night on the Sally Challen murder case and I have to say it was a rather strange experience. In 2010, after many, many years of bullying and routine humiliation, Sally Challen beat her husband to death with a hammer and was sentenced to 18 years for murder. In 2015 "coercive control" became a crime in the UK and her legal team used that new law to ask for her to be allowed to appeal and her case reviewed with a view to having her conviction reduced from murder to one of manslaughter on the grounds of her husband's coercive control. By all accounts, for pretty much the entire duration of their marriage, her husband was a cheat, a bully, abusive, occasionally violent and had raped her on several occasions. While both her sons stood by her only one felt able to be interviewed on camera and it was he who campaigned vigorously for her release, aided by Justice for Women. Earlier this year the charge against her was indeed reduced to manslaughter and she was subsequently released after spending over 10 years in prison. This documentary told her story from the start of their relationship to her subsequent release from prison. Rightly or wrongly I have a lot of sympathy for women (and men) in this situation, having been married to a violent man, and I know how easily a person can be pushed over the edge with the constant drip, drip, drip of abuse and walking on eggshells, but sadly, for me, I found Sally to be a rather unsympathetic person. She seemed almost zombie-like (maybe she was on medication, I don't know), but while I still think it was the right decision to release her, I found it harder to warm to her, and yet felt so much sympathy for her son who had fought so hard on her behalf. Strange!
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Then yesterday I was invited to a friend's house for an early Christmas lunch between former colleagues. J is a wonderful cook and she and her husband are fabulous hosts and I really had a lovely time. Of course since we had all worked together for years we had so much to talk about and had a really good laugh. She even got hold of Christmas crackers with paper hats and silly jokes in them - the cornier the better. "What do you call a hen that can count her own eggs?" "A mathemachicken"! I tell you, after a few drinks that joke was hilarious!
The gods were also kind to me and I managed to make it all the way back from her place in record time, despite it being rush hour and their house being about 60 km away on the other side of the lake!
Tomorrow my friend and I are off on our final trip of the year to the Christmas market in Colmar. It is one of the biggest and best known markets in France and is supposed to be beautiful. It's not an area I know too well, although I have spent time in nearby Strasburg, so I'm looking forward to it, all the more so since we are staying over night. So despite another early morning start we don't have to trek all the way there and back in one day! Photos to follow I suspect!
And finally, I do my Monday morning and Tuesday afternoon yoga class with a lady called Sylvie, who I like very much. On Tuesday afternoon the "PrĂ©sidente" of the yoga club said that they and the hiking group were organizing a snow-shoeing outing up in the mountains behind my house in the new year and that anyone interested in going was to let her know by early January so that they could book the restaurant up on the plâteau. So Sylvie came over and asked me to go!!! I've never been snow-shoeing in my life, I tried cross country skiing once and hated it, I'm totally unfit, and despite all of these ladies being older than me guess who will most likely end up being "tail-end Charlie"! But Sylvie virtually begged me to go with her "as it would be such fun" (yeah, right). But stupid old me is actually thinking about it! I know I need to get some kind of aerobic exercise going and signing up for this would give me 6-8 weeks to do something about my abysmal fitness level but …. Damn, I must be mad for even considering it!
I'd like to read more on the story of Sally. Repeat violence and abuse-I don't know how I would fair? Old time Christmas markets are becoming the new thing in the US. When I was in Philadelphia, they were setting up for a big one it seemed. Now, I guess we have a weekend market in St Paul that the girls and I might check out next weekend. My dream is to really attend a European or UK Christmas market in December. Who knows how life might turn out and maybe I just will some day. enjoy your trip! Take some picks so I can feel like I went along with you.
ReplyDeleteRepeated abuse can break anyone. It almost broke me, but thankfully it didn't. As for the market, I've seen pictures of Colmar and it looks beautiful, and so very different from this region. I think the weather is forecast to be ok tomorrow too so hopefully I'll get some decent photos!
DeleteElections bring out the most peculiar sides of people. Corbyn was a lost cause right from the beginning. The tree looks great nestled there beneath the stairs.
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This election has been particularly bitter, mainly because of Brexit of course, and yes you're right about Corbyn. I think if ANYONE else had been head of the party they might have stood a good chance of getting in. Not that he will accept that of course because he's just another arrogant git in my opinion - aren't they all. And yeah, snow-shoeing!!!! I'm still mulling that one over!
DeleteI am so sad the election went the way it did, I truly think Britain is in for many years of bad economy now. We barely won our election in Canada over the conservatives. We used to vote conservative but the party went from being a fiscally prudent business forward party to one of ignorance and racism, not what we were voting for at all. Snowshoeing, not my cup of tea but maybe one of those things you need to try before you make a decision?
ReplyDeleteI give up after the election. Don't want to think about politics or Brexit for at least a year but with having to sort out paperwork to remain in France now I guess it's not going to go away is it. And as for the snow-shoeing, I suspect I won't like it either, but what I WILL always love is being up in the mountains in the sunshine (assuming the weather is good). Still haven't made my mind up on it yet though!
DeleteThat Christmas cracker joke creased me up and I’m definitely sober (I hope so anyway as it’s only breakfast time)!
ReplyDeleteI like "silly" jokes very much. They always tickle me. But then little things please little minds don't they!
DeleteHello Anna,
ReplyDeleteI wanted to let you know I got your Christmas card. Thank you! My daughter is fluently bilingual so I asked her to translate the front of the card....and then realized you'd done so for me already. :)
What a wonderful idea to share the good tidings of the season. I'll be sure to check in again.
I'm glad you got the card - and it's a tremendous advantage for your daughter to be bilingual isn't it!!!! And what a lovely idea Anne had to set up the Christmas card swop - a great way to discover other blogs AND send season's greetings too!
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