My bloody computer seemed to have screwed up my "favourites" file today, it was just such a mess to find anything. At one point it seemed to indicate that I had 563 "favourites" - no way! So after lunch I started messing around trying to get everything back into some sort of order and managed to get them back in an alphabetical format so I thought I'd just start deleting those I hadn't looked at in ... well, forever I guess. I reckon I deleted about 100 files and now I'm much happier with how things look. Then just as I was finishing up a neighbour sent me a Whatsapp request. She's decided to set up a "lockdown walking group" and so three of us ended up going out for an hour's walk together this afternoon. The weather is glorious, if cold, and it was so lovely to just get out there and breath some fresh air!
Like most people I have certain blogs and FB groups that I follow. One of the FB groups I got into after my husband left me so you can imagine the kinds of stories that are on there. Today, however, one of the male members of the group sent round a post basically saying "ok, so you got dumped after how many years of marriage, but what is it you are soooooo thankful that you never have to put up with again?" OMG!!!! By the time I'd finished scrolling through over 350 comments only about five of them were from "dumped husbands" as far as I could see. Some of the comments were so gross I wouldn't write them here but .... The guys tended to write "she would make a cup of tea and just dump the teabag on the kitchen cabinet", or "she always moaned at me about the state of the house, all the while sitting on her backside messaging her affair partner"! But the comments from the women!!!! "My ex only used to brush his teeth once a week. When I commented one time that it wasn't fair to his employees he just said he was going to drink coffee before he got to work so they wouldn't notice". Then the guy that only took a shower once a month, having to wipe snot rockets off the shower wall, the toenail clippings on the kitchen counter (if she was lucky and if he hadn't already eaten them). Another lady's husband was a lay preacher and as soon as they opened the front door he dropped to his knees and said "thank you God" and other prayers, but he had to say each one 10 times and each one lasted about a minute. Never mind that she was struggling to carry in the baby or the groceries and that the older children would have to step over his splayed legs to bring their school stuff in. Given that this guy was also screwing around I guess it gives a whole new meaning to the words "lay preacher" doesn't it! Oh they were so gross - but the ones I've posted here are tame compared to the worst. Makes you wonder doesn't it. And oddly enough it would seem one of the main reasons that your spouse just had to cheat on you was because you stack the dishwasher all wrong. I was guilty of this apparently so it's no wonder I'm still single isn't it!
Anyway, all this to say, I was on zoom with some old friends this afternoon and we were chatting about scam phone calls/emails and so on, and I mentioned the "die boomer, die" troll doing the rounds in blogland at the moment. Well it turns out my friends didn't know I had a blog (why would they?) and asked to read it. So under strict confidentiality conditions I'm going to send them the link. Say hi to Janet, Patters and Maureen if you get a chance!
Hi to Janet, Patters (is that a nickname?) and Maureen!
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DeleteLax personal hygiene habbits are absolute deal breakers in a relationship in my opinion. I did not get to meet "my prince" in life but, the frogs I kissed were very clean.
ReplyDeleteAnd Hi, Janet, Patters and Maureen! Your friend here has a true knack for writing.
I know we can (and probably do) slob around in the privacy of our own homes but there's a difference between the baggy sweat pants and not washing for a month isn't there (well that's my story and I'm sticking to it)!
DeleteWhen I hear about awful spouses, my huns starts looking better. I'm as annoying as he is, I'm sure, but neither enough to say see ya!
ReplyDeleteYour husband's rogue shopping palls in comparison doesn't it!
DeleteHi Janet! Hi Maureen! Blogs are fantastic ways to communicate and share!
ReplyDeleteAren't they just Dave (oh, you forgot Patters)!
DeleteSome of those "dumped" folks have tales to tell, though I may not wanna hear them!
ReplyDeleteI was just mentioning here the disgusting habits because of the FB post but I know of one lady whose ex kidnapped her 14 year old son, killed him and then went into the woods and shot himself!
DeleteThere's no accounting for the behaviour of some people! Welcome to Janet, Patters and Maureen, you'll enjoy this blog! x
ReplyDeleteWe're all irritating in our own ways of course, and when you've been married/together a long time of course the shine wears off, but some/most of comments were just so gross that it showed a TOTAL lack of respect for the other person - in addition to the fact that they all cheated!
DeleteAs a divorce lawyer in my previous life, you now understand why I don’t miss work!
ReplyDeleteWhat you think you can't even begin to imagine - is what I imagine you've seen and heard, and then some. When we went to the bank to open separate accounts the lady commented that "at least you're civilised". Apparently some divorcing couples had to be kept in separate rooms - and I more than believe it!
DeleteMight be a good idea for some of us who are happily married to read through those comments if and when we ever get annoyed at the small things our partners do. Just reading what you wrote here makes me realize how petty my silent complaints are.
ReplyDeleteHello Janet, Patters, and Maureen!
It's one thing to irritate your spouse because you slurp your tea, or have the TV on too loud, but the lack of respect (intentional I'm thinking) in so many of those comments was just staggering. I'm pretty sure that when these guys were chasing tail they managed to shower more than once a month!
DeleteYuk, yuk, yuk. Some of those things are gross. Sometimes people who are "what you see is what you get" are better then some of the sly ones. Don't you just hate it when your computer goes rogue and theres no clear explanation why!
ReplyDeleteI think some of the things those people did were actually deliberate - just an "I'll show you" kinda thing. It's one way of showing contempt I guess. And I do get frustrated when my computer goes nuts. If I have enough patience I can usually figure it out - but I don't always have the patience!
DeleteHey Janet, Patters, and Maureen
ReplyDeleteNow I am wondering how I am still married since I load the dishwasher all kinds of ways and don't always care if I make the bed completely straight or not.
Seriously, one of the most common complaints for some of the guys who were cheating was that "you load the dishwasher wrong"! I guess it's a good enough excuse to then storm off after a manufactured argument so they can then go and see their Schmoopie! As for you and your dishwasher ways - oh your poor long-suffering husband!
DeleteWhat am I so thankful for that I never have to put up with again, rolling over my drunk husband as he vomits on himself, so that he doesn't aspirate. I really don't miss that at all.
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DeleteTell me about it. Or the day I was to fly to England on my own and my passed out husband decided to use petrol to start a fire in the chimney because it wasn't lighting fast enough. When I saw the petrol dripped onto the floor and he was passed out on the sofa there was no way I was leaving my kids with THAT, so I cancelled my trip!
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