I know it's completely normal to feel down sometimes, especially in these difficult times, but I really don't like it and get annoyed at myself actually because I realize just how good I have it. I know - whaddaya gonna do? Well I know what I need to do and that's get out and start walking in such perfect weather - cold but sunny, so perfect walking weather. It's hard to give yourself a virtual kick up the butt though isn't it. Talking of cold, I finally got through to Max that he needed to come and look at my heating system/water heater as it is still leaking. He came over on Saturday morning with a new part, but four hours later he was cussing and swearing and he now reckons that there is a fault in the water heater and he's going to need to have the supplier come out and take a look at it. As luck would have it, when he switched me over to the fuel water heating system I hung on to my electric heater as it was only a year old and I reckoned Jordan and Jen might take it if/when they buy a fixer-upper. So now my water heater has been switched back to the electric heater but, since Saturday I no longer have any heat at all in my radiators! Bloody hell! As it stands right now I have two electric heaters running and hopefully Jordan will be showing up any minute now to take a look at the heating system. I suspect it's just a minor thing but since that stuff is all Dutch to me (as yet), I'd rather have him look at it than have me potentially screw it up!
On Friday I drove into Geneva for my two-yearly mammogram (aren't they fun ladies?) but I have to say I don't find it the least bit painful and I had the lovely South African lady doctor I had the last two times who is a blast. Last time she was telling me she was hoping to take a solo trip through Morocco in a camper van and maybe even chuck it all in and hit the road for a couple of years to enjoy her freedom. Well that didn't go according to plan since the two young Scandinavian women were murdered by "terrorist" thugs while out camping in the Atlas mountains (in Morocco) shortly before she went to book and as of Friday at least she still hasn't chucked it all in. She had planned to go back to South Africa for a vacation this summer too but obviously with the pandemic that was cancelled. She said she was lucky that Air France refunded the international portion of the trip but the domestic flight on South African Airways was lost since they have gone bust (I didn't know that)! Anyway, she told me that everything looked fine and she would send my results to my gynae the same day. And I was struck once again by just how luxurious this clinic is. It was where I had Jordan and it really was a pleasure to be in such a nice place, but then as I've mentioned before, it reflects the difference between Swiss health care prices and French prices I guess! After that I drove on to IKEA to have a look at the bathroom set-ups and it was actually ok. Not too crowded at all with everyone wearing masks and plenty of hand sanitizer available all over the shop. I held the lift doors for two women as I was going back down to the parking lot and the older woman and I laughed when we both took off our sweaters in the lift because the whole shop was just too hot. Or maybe as the lady said "ain't hormones wonderful"!
On Tuesday night I stopped in at the food bank in town as I had a case of goods to drop off. One of the ladies there knows I'm English and has started keeping English-language books for me and on Tuesday night she came running over with six nursery rhyme books for me! And I'm thrilled. Ok I won't be reading nursery rhymes to anyone anytime soon but it has been lovely just sitting looking through some of the old stories anyhow! Then on Sunday I stopped in at Jordan and Jen's as I wanted to give Jen her birthday present and have the three of them sign a birthday card for Ammy (grandma in the States). I thought it was sweet that Jen printed off a picture of her latest baby scan with the baby "waving" and put that in with the card. She was telling me though that her doctor is already talking about signing her off sick as she has been getting contractions caused by stress!!! Apparently they had another "incident" last week where they had to call security in. She works in a psychiatric hospital and some of the patients can be aggressive and even violent, so I guess if they can't take her out of that environment for the duration of her pregnancy she'll be signed off as a precautionary measure! Then she asked if she could ask me a favour (of course). When the baby is here she wants to drop down to working 80%. She would be allowed to take Mondays off and "would I be willing to take care of the baby on Friday mornings until Jordan gets home at lunchtime?" That way they could put the baby down for a place in the local crèche just three days a week. Would I??? Damn, I thought they'd never ask! I wouldn't be willing to look after the baby full-time because (a) I live too far away and (b) I've worked full-time for 40 years and this is finally my time and she/they absolutely agree with me on that. That being said, I told her I'd be free on Wednesdays and Fridays and obviously any time they needed help for whatever reason. I think it was a relief to her because she was saying that taking the baby to a sitter would cost them around €600/month and the crèche would be around €200 - probably less - and she was more inclined towards the crèche because she had heard horror stories about some sitters. Now I know I'm biased because my neighbour took care of Jordan and it was a wonderful experience all round but I think all things being equal I'm more in favour of a crèche too. That being said, heck, you can sure tell the difference between socialist France and non-socialist Switzerland. I found a place for André in a Swiss crèche when we moved back here in 1989 and even then it was over 700 Swiss francs a month. The going rate when I left work was around SF 2,000/month and I've seen up to SF 3,000/month too, so €200 doesn't seem that much to me!
As I've been sitting here typing this I've just listened to Kamala Harris' speech at the SCOTUS hearing and I have to say she impresses me more and more, putting it out there and saying it like it is. I also recently saw a few Youtube clips of Pete Buttigieg and damn he's impressive too - and young - and while it didn't work out for him this time round I definitely reckon he's got a future in politics that's for sure!
And finally Facebook reminded me the other day that this time three years ago I was in Rhodes with Steve! Damn, that brings it home to me that he's been dead over a year now. I guess that might have had something to do with my feeling down the past couple of days!
That's actually Steve in the left hand side of the picture talking to an older couple in a restaurant in Lindos. To my mind they had the perfect set-up. He lived in the south of England and she lived in Scotland and they used to fly up and down the country to see each other regularly and head off on holiday together a couple of times a year. Had he lived, I could have seen that kind of relationship working for Steve and me. We were both very independent and neither of us had any interest in living with someone again, but we got along so well. Sad really, I wish he had had many more years to enjoy his retirement!
And talking of FB, I've mentioned before that I play Words with Friends with quite a few people. It seems to be etiquette that you don't chat back and forth with people you don't know, except I do chat occasionally with a chappie in New York. Anyway, a couple of days ago, "handsome" popped up and asked me to play a game. Immediately I get kinda suspicious because mostly I'm playing against women, so I'm already expecting something funny. Well sure enough after a couple of moves I get a message "Where are you located? Are you married? Do you have kids?" etc. and I'm thinking "oh oh, here we go again", and sure enough today I got the old "Can we try communicating on Whatsapp as it's easier?". You may remember I mentioned the guy in Texas who wanted my email so we could "get to know each other better". It's happened about four times now, so I sense I'll be blocking someone later. Judging from the things women have said in some of the groups I'm on I'll either be getting a request for money at some point or receiving an unsolicited dick pic! Yeah, that'll be fun!
One of the ladies made me laugh because she got the dick pic and this is what she sent back to the guy!
Dick Pic! sigh. A friend I talked with in AU sent me one. When I objected, he said he thought he had asked and I said okay.ReplyDelete
In American, what is a creche? I know what a crech is, but what is it?
Makes you wonder why they think you want to see a picture of their dick doesn't it. They seem to be much more impressed with them than we women are! And sorry, a crèche is day care/nursery. I thought everyone used that word!Delete
Of that lady was a genius! Loved her reply. Lol!ReplyDelete
I am sure you will have a wonderful time with your grandchild half day a week. Some of my best memories of my childhood are with my grandma (mom's side). I was her oldest grandchild and she was young and energetic. We used to have loads of fun together and became best of friends. Miss her so much.
I liked that lady's reply to the pervert too - that's why I kept a copy of it. In the meantime I've just blocked the guy though because I can't be arsed with them any more. And I'm reckoning half a day a week is just a minimum but I'm happy with whatever comes along of course. We didn't have family around when we had our kids so I realize just how much it will help them out that they DO have family here!Delete
I only look at FB once a day because mostly it's garbage. My health care's really dirt cheap thanks to my being in a warzone (twice) while in the US Navy. And Pete is very, very well spoken. And Kamaala? She's going to be president someday.ReplyDelete
I think you're right about Kamala becoming the first woman president (I hope so anyway), and while you may (or may not) agree with Mayor Pete's politics, at least you know what they are because you get a straight answer. I like him very much!Delete
It’s hard not to be blah with the way the world is today, not having heat doesn’t help! Oy!ReplyDelete
Kamala doesn’t have time for nonsense, which is one reason I like her. Same for Pete Buttigieg; you ask him a question and you get an answer, no roundabout chatter until the question is forgotten. I miss that in a lot of politicians, on BOTH sides.
I love that reply to the dick pic. That’ll keep me smiling all day!
Oh I know it's easy to get the blues with everything that's going on but I usually get over it pretty quickly too. And at the very least, having no heat will make sure I keep moving right? I agree with you that politicians talking round and round in circles drives me mad too - like "when was the last time Trump tested negative?" - and no-one seems to be able to give a clear answer right! As for the FB guy, I've just blocked him because I can't be arsed!Delete
Of course you are a little down. The body remembers anniversaries even when our minds don't. That's what I've experienced, anyway.ReplyDelete
Good for you for getting your mammogram done. I've got one next month.
You're going to love having that baby for a few hours every week. You'll bond in ways you couldn't otherwise.
I've really missed Steve actually, probably because his death was so unexpected, what with him being only mid-60s and in good health. Oddly enough, I tend to think about my brother too pretty much every night when I get into bed to read. He loved reading - until his wife died suddenly - and then he didn't any more. And while I know I will love this baby "to the moon and back", I'm still intrigued to find out what exactly that feels like!Delete
I love that you will be a part of the baby's life and care. You love your grands like you love you own kids, but it is even stronger because all you have to do is love them. You don't have to be the responsible parent! I wish I could be with my granddaughter in person instead of FaceTime.ReplyDelete
I know this anniversary of your friend's death does have an impact on how you are feeling.
I'm thrilled that I'm going to be such a close part of the baby's life too, especially since my parents had to deal with my brother's kids being in North Wales, my sister's kids being in Denmark and my kids being in the US and/or Switzerland/France. We were a very close family but it wasn't the same as having grown up all together though. That being said, my friend's kids grew up in France (her mom was in England) and grandma once commented that she saw more of the French grandkids than she did of those that lived just down the road. My ex-MIL pretty much said the same thing too AND when my kids are with the more distant family they have fun and enjoy being all together, so I guess there are advantages too. And yep, Steve's death has continued to bother me and I still think about him often. It's so sad to have a great future behind you!Delete
It doesn't seem like a year since you told us about Steve's death. Some people we miss so much, I think when its unexpected its somehow worse too.ReplyDelete
I loved that reply to the dick pic guy. I mean I kinda get teenagers sending them, but grown men?? Surely not!!
It will be wonderful having your half day baby sitting. I loved it when mine were small. Just be careful not to volunteer for too much though, I found it very very tiring looking after the grandchildren. I think with your own you are more relaxed and know the things they can do and can't do, with the grandkids you are much more nervous in case they hurt themselves or whatever and therefore you end up watching them like a hawk and wear yourself out! I found two days a week to be perfect, best of both worlds. I could spoil and cuddle my grandkids all I liked then hand them over to mum and dad and walk away! Brilliant!! You'll love it! xx
I can't remember if Steve died at the end of July or beginning of August and while he had been ill with cancer he seemed to have gotten over it. It was pneumonia that took him in the end - a big strapping man like that. So yep I think you're right. It's so much worse when it is unexpected. I guess that's what nearly killed my brother when his wife was taken ill and died within 24 hours (she had a stroke). Still, life goes on doesn't it, and you're right about not volunteering too much with the grandchildren. I feel very strongly that having worked my entire life now is MY time to enjoy FINALLY (but I'm pretty sure I'll be gaga anyway). And again you're right that they are NOT our children so you have to respect their parents' ways of doing things. Still, we're not there yet are we!Delete
Anniversaries of deaths can be sad. Both of my parents died in February and I've come to hate February because of that.ReplyDelete
I'm glad you'll get to spend time with your grandchild. We have ours a bit too much right now, 2-3 days a week overnight but hopefully things will get better. As long as he's safe I'm fine with him being here.
I've been thinking about Steve (and my brother) an awful lot lately. It's sad but what can you do. And yes I'm looking forward to spending time with the baby when it gets here. Your grandbaby is lucky to have you (and I'm sure you consider yourself lucky to have him). He's a sweet little pumpkin!Delete
Hope your cheery self picks up soon but we all need some down time now and again. Was laughing to myself about your mammogram experience because I've just had mine. Here on the NHS they are three yearly and of course it was delayed because of Covid. No luxury clinic for me: just a mobile caravan in a carpark and it took 9 days to receive the result!ReplyDelete
I'm very lucky to have access to Swiss medical facilities through my former employer's medical insurance - but it is pricey! My biggest worry when having a mammogram is they get you all set up and then fire alarm goes - while your boob is still stuck in the "panini machine"!Delete