Last week was a really busy one, mainly as a result of running my neighbour around. I don't mind at all but at one point I commented to her that we must look like a geriatric version of Thelma and Louise when they see us on the motorway cameras. On Tuesday I took her to drop her car off for its bi-annual inspection, and then on Wednesday it was up at the crack of dawn to take her to hospital for her latest carpal tunnel operation. She's already had both hands operated on once but seemingly another operation was required on her right hand. In retrospect it was lucky that her appointment was on Wednesday because on Thursday there was (yet again) an accident near the motorway toll and the tailback was 5km long - we never would have made it in time! When I went to pick her up later she made me laugh as she recounted that they were all given gowns, hair coverings and plastic bootees while they sat in the waiting room, but one poor chap hadn't known what to do with the bootees and walked in with it on his head!!!! Mind you, it's not totally obvious what to do with these things is it! Then the next day I took her to pick up her car and have been in every day helping her light her fire, open cans etc. Her daughter would have done this for her but she was away in Chambéry on a training course so it was just Thelma and Louise for the duration. And again, I didn't mind at all but she was tying herself in knots saying she was "such a burden on everyone"! She actually caught herself at one point and said that she realized that was how her husband taught her to think about herself - he basically knocked all her self-confidence out the window, and she finally recognized that. She then told me that she had actually found notebooks where he had made lists of all the things he wanted to do before he died (he knew he was dying) and it listed things like "make sure she doesn't get to stay in the house after my death"; "ensure she doesn't get a widow's pension" (both of these things he actually went to a notary to do but as their marriage was such a long one, he wasn't able to get away with it). So while there was no love lost between them at the end, she had softened her heart towards him - but after finding those notebooks, she was done with him and his memory! So spiteful to the end!
She also mentioned to me that our neighbour (the farmer's daughter) had been burgled the other week. I guess her home is an easier target because it's out on its own and I'm thinking somebody knew that they were up at her bf's place in the mountains. I commented that I actually had the kids' baseball bat behind my bedroom door and she said she was getting her son's bat from him to do the same. Neither of us have been sleeping particularly well lately and when I mentioned that I'd only gotten to sleep at 3 a.m. she told me she'd actually gotten up at 4 a.m. as she couldn't sleep anymore, so I asked her to imagine that we each heard a noise "next door" and went crashing round, only to whack each other over the head with our respective baseball bats!!
In other news, there was a report of a major incident in Annecy last week and when I heard it was a bomb scare I thought "oh oh, here we go". Turns out a construction company had unearthed a 250kg unexploded WWII bomb near the train station and everyone had to be evacuated!! Thankfully they managed to disable it and everyone was allowed to return home, but can you imagine the shock those builders must have felt when they dug that baby up!
My Christmas shopping is more or less done, which is great as I hate crowds. I finally finshed scanning all the old photos that were just laying about the place and decided to make each of my boys their own albums with all the photos from their younger years. The photos aren't great as they are photos of photos but I'm so pleased with the albums and it allowed me to throw all the loose photos away. I also made an album of the two grandchildren for Jordan and Jen and think I've figured out the perfect system to keep this up every year. I mean, does anyone actually look at photos on their phone/computer? This way at least, I know the kids will pull the albums out occasionally and look at them!
This is the cover of André's. I cropped the photo because it has his full name and date of birth, but I'm delighted with the album! |
The cover of Jordan's album! |
Charlie and Elynn's cover! |
On Saturday afternoon Jen invited me to join them and her mom for a visit to a dinosaur exhibition in La Roche. It wasn't exactly Disney, but then again nor was it Disney prices. It was very good all the same and Charlie loved it, but oh my poor ears - all those excited kids and roaring dinosaurs!
As the next day was sunny (if cold) I decided to take another walk at the Lake in Passy, just to get some fresh air. As I was walking up to towards the beach area I noticed a group of women actually swimming! I started chatting to an older lady along the lines of "sooner them than me", but in fact wild swimming is apparently very exhilerating, although I'm not sure I'll ever be brave enough to find out. I've read the book Wintering twice now and one chapter is given over to how she tried wild (ocean) swimming. I think the book is really about how she tries to cope with her husband's illness and her own depression but I enjoyed it very much - and will probably get round to reading it again sometime this winter!
Insanity? And yes that is snow on the mountains! |
And finally, I stopped in at the Food Bank tonight to drop off some items. I buy for them every week and when I have a crateful I drop it off to them. I also had a cash donation for them, as a charity I had previously donated to every month has now closed so I just switched my donation to the Food Bank. One of the ladies there knows me quite well by now so I asked her if they wanted coats (brand new, never worn), blankets and sleeping bags and she told me that they no longer accepted that stuff (not enough space) but her sister volunteered at the Restos du Coeur (Restaurants of the Heart) and if we set up a time to meet she would drop them off for her sister. That got me to thinking what a lovely family they must be, with her volunteering at the Food Bank and her sister volunteering at the Restos du Coeur! So then my mind starts whirring and should I/could I/when would I, but I know I have to hold off for the moment as now that Jen has started back to work (she started on Monday) the other grandma and I will be called upon to take care of one of the grandkids at least one afternoon a week, although we're not sure when. So for now, I won't be volunteering but I am giving it some serious thought!
As a side note, the Restos du Coeur are a fantastic organization which was started by French comedian Coluche in 1985. As well as serving hot meals, they have volunteers ferrying food out to people who are housebound, picking up donations from supermarkets and so on. Looking at their website they also give assistance in learning French for foreigners, trying to help people find housing, develop viable skills and so on. It's a fantastic organization! There has long been a theory in some parts that Coluche was murdered (motorbike accident) because of his fierce criticism of the then French President, Valérie Giscard d'Estaing. In 1980 he announced that he was going to run for president and while people initially laughed it off, opinion polls showed that he was indeed very popular - hence the assertion in some parts that he was bumped off! I don't know enough about it to have an opinion one way or another, but I do know that whether or not he was a good comedian, he was indeed a wonderful man who founded an extraordinary organization that is going from strength to strength - but isn't it such a shame that we need it!
Coluche! |
You have a beautiful family! I've got totes full of pictures that I need to go through soon. Maybe I'll steal your book idea (I think my sons' girlfriends will get a kick out of them).
ReplyDeleteOh please do it!! It took me ages to go through all those pictures and I was frustrated because of course the pictures aren't the greatest quality, but I am thrilled with the albums! You can add text and so on but I haven't really figured that stuff out yet. I think I first tried Snapfish, then Popsa, but lately I've been sticking with CEWE and within 48 hours I got my albums back. I reckon your sons will get a kick out of it too!
DeleteYou are one very busy person!
ReplyDeleteFor the most part I like it that way, although I do crash and burn occasionally!
DeleteIf you know anything about Aussies, it’s we swear like wharfies (waterside workers). Reading on your neighbour’s husband, I was like “That’s F’d. What an F wit.” Really, how can a man stay with a woman for so long and want to hurt her? I mean, mate, if you hate her, leave, dickhead.
ReplyDeleteYour photo books are lovely ideas. Young’ens have no idea about photo albums and they love them.
To my mind my neighbour got to play the big important man while having his wife appliance at home to cook and clean, and his fancy bits on the side all throughout their marriage (he told her he was cheating on her two years after they married). She admits she should never have given up her job when the kids were born. She didn't want to but he insisted and there you have it. Never give up your financial independence ladies. Hopefully it never matters but more often than not it does! I'm a case in point - thank God I kept my job or I would have been royally screwed!
DeleteI feel so bad for your neighbor. What a bitter, nasty husband she had. I hope she is able to enjoy the rest of her life now that he is gone and she can hopefully heal. Wonderful idea on the photo albums. They are adorable and will be treasured I'm sure. I think you would love volunteering when the time is right. Enjoy your week!!
ReplyDeleteMy neighbour is slowly gaining her smile back but she was so very, very hurt when she told me about those notebooks! Who wouldn't be???? And as for volunteering, I would love to but I want to be sure to be able to commit to doing it regularly and at the moment I just can't do that!
DeleteI understand how your neighbor feels about having to rely upon others. I realize I'll probably have to some day, and know how much that will take away from independence. Kids and dinosaurs? They love them! I grew up in an age when dinosaurs were something only briefly described in books with bad pictural representations.
ReplyDeleteI don't think any of us want to rely on others for help do we, but in the end most people give freely and happily of their time. I think we need to learn to accept help and not just give it, but it sure isn't easy! As for the dinosaurs, he loved it and it was amazing to realize that the dinosaurs we saw were nowhere near the actual size of the real things. It's amazing to think they walked this earth, but when you look at rhinos and hippos, I think you can make the leap. Mind you, when you look at some gorillas you can see where man evolved from too (or was that just the boys in my school)?
DeleteYou are doing lots of good right there where you live and I admire you for that. Good for you!
ReplyDeleteI have never in my life heard of such a horrible husband. I mean, sure, in fiction. But in reality? He was evil.
I strongly believe we need to give back to our community. It took me a while to realize that giving closer to home is where it's at, rather than the large charities that pay their CEOs millions. Took me a while to figure that out. As for the neighbour, I freely admit I was never a good judge of character - I tended to believe people's BS - but having seen his behaviour up close and personal (if only hearing it from behind the garden hedge) I have to believe there are some really nasty people about. Granted they often treat others pretty well (as indeed he treated me well) because it's all about impression management, but what really counts is the way you treat those closest to you and sadly there are a lot of nasty bastards abou, I believe!
DeleteWell, I guess it's a good thing that your neighbor's husband died. Sounds like he was troll.
ReplyDeleteI'm still kicking about, trying to decide what I want to throw my time and energy into, as a volunteer. I always feel better though, when I help someone else.
I think their divorce would have been an even bigger hell on earth than their marriage and so while she never wished him dead, she wanted away from him so bad! In the end, it wasn't in her hands though. As for volunteering, my friend told me when I first retired that I would sign myself up for so many things that it would be overwhelming - and she was absolutely right!!! Covid made me back off for obvious reasons and I'm just now picking up a little, but I want to be careful what I sign up for as I don't want to let people down by not being consistent. Les Restos du Coeur interests me very much - I'd be happy to drive around picking up donations from supermarkets or delivering food to housebound people, but I have to think it through first. Obviously your situation with Jack will limit you but I think you'd get a lot out of volunteering too as you're such a giver! Can't wait to see what you decide on!
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