tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post1985630447384598006..comments2024-03-28T18:35:47.483+00:00Comments on Random Thoughts: Rock on my son!Treadershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-72507425977625878892020-06-30T18:30:50.590+01:002020-06-30T18:30:50.590+01:00I think my son would like children but I don't...I think my son would like children but I don't think it's "essential" and I absolutely respect people's right to make that choice. Having children isn't for everyone and it's bloody hard work (as we well know). Only time will tell I guess!Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-90911710513997889222020-06-30T12:14:31.119+01:002020-06-30T12:14:31.119+01:00I have a daughter and son in law who don't eve...I have a daughter and son in law who don't ever want kids and it works for them. But it conscious choice and I have grandpuppies.and then i.have a 40 year old late blooming son not even close suffering from various issues....kids!Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15195838412173806659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-63847637458627716292020-06-30T11:26:08.680+01:002020-06-30T11:26:08.680+01:00I think probably the biggest "fault" for...I think probably the biggest "fault" for my son and his wife was meeting each other when they were just 18 and falling in love. So then 15 years later maybe you get bored (don't we all). I don't know, que sera I suppose. As for finding mates for your kids to me that shouldn't even be difficult. I know it might be frustrating for them at their ages because didn't we all want a partner at that age? I'm sure they'll find their happiness at some point but it's the not knowing that's hard isn't it!Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-40342915365539847572020-06-30T02:01:16.683+01:002020-06-30T02:01:16.683+01:00My heart goes out to him. Why do the sweetest peop...My heart goes out to him. Why do the sweetest people get the worst things in love too often? I have a lovely 29 year old daughter and handsome 31 year old son, neither of whom have been lucky enough to find a partner yet. I can't figure out what potential mates would want that neither has? My daughter is independent, but loyal. My son is fun loving, and while not making much money, he's full of life and has little material wants. Can I say I think Lilly is a fool, and she thought she could have it all ways. How strong is your son for not accepting less than honesty and loyalty. You've raised wonderful men. Can you find mates for my kids?SAMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16485146123969622896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-30323644362486589112020-06-29T10:40:29.683+01:002020-06-29T10:40:29.683+01:00My marriage was far from perfect so who would I be...My marriage was far from perfect so who would I be to judge. Plus, as I say, I think they are good together. This may just be a "phase" for them but who knows!Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-27580199056120485352020-06-28T20:13:02.416+01:002020-06-28T20:13:02.416+01:00Good for him. XGood for him. XLiving Alone in Your 60'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08848266282669835475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-35320847493927316602020-06-28T11:21:56.596+01:002020-06-28T11:21:56.596+01:00Behind every good man is his mother and so good th...Behind every good man is his mother and so good that you can have those conversations in a non-judgemental wayCaree Risoverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16454194093120715901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-23612013043981275032020-06-28T08:23:10.643+01:002020-06-28T08:23:10.643+01:00I know what you mean. I don't criticize at all...I know what you mean. I don't criticize at all because if they get back together again .... I'm not sure that will happen though as he is just so angry but who knows what the future will hold. So far he's talking about just going out and having fun if this divorce goes through!Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-27179900301122405852020-06-27T15:09:42.599+01:002020-06-27T15:09:42.599+01:00It's a difficult one and as a parent you have ...It's a difficult one and as a parent you have to show support but not say too much. My daughters husband walked out on her and we had anger, tears etc A couple of months later he was trying to woo her back, using the children as a lever. She rejected it and 5 years later she is one awesome woman. Living Alone in Your 60'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08848266282669835475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-4379447464743142682020-06-27T14:51:31.877+01:002020-06-27T14:51:31.877+01:00You know, once a mom always a mom, so I'm real...You know, once a mom always a mom, so I'm really surprised that he has stood up and said "nope". I'm glad he has a backbone but I know how much he is hurting!Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-8793168079226865502020-06-27T14:50:21.870+01:002020-06-27T14:50:21.870+01:00I think she's shocked because she expected him...I think she's shocked because she expected him to go along with the separation for the summer and he hasn't. It's sad though as I think they were good together and I know he loves her!Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-39324342132090782082020-06-27T14:47:22.867+01:002020-06-27T14:47:22.867+01:00They have lived together for 10 years and got marr...They have lived together for 10 years and got married 3 years ago. It was son no. 2 who got married last year. Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-66240745178631836182020-06-27T11:17:44.868+01:002020-06-27T11:17:44.868+01:00Ah, these are the times when we see what our kids ...Ah, these are the times when we see what our kids are made of, and you seem to have a strong young man with a good head on his shoulders.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17803297366197086152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-47350472033532792702020-06-27T00:05:00.154+01:002020-06-27T00:05:00.154+01:00Good for your son. If he'd have shaken her up...Good for your son. If he'd have shaken her up, she'd have called, not sent an email. Believe me, words are easy to type.Dave Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10429379083970699093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-16533412683404704682020-06-26T23:36:42.620+01:002020-06-26T23:36:42.620+01:00He will probably change his mind once the hurt has...He will probably change his mind once the hurt has dissipated. But, he needs good support and seems to have made his point with her. Didn't they just marry?Practical Parsimonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08419071209412207674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-79982456898356024312020-06-26T21:10:10.572+01:002020-06-26T21:10:10.572+01:00You're right Bob. It's a tough situation a...You're right Bob. It's a tough situation as he loves his wife but I think we have enough of us building him up right now. Thank god for the mates eh!Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-52270902332376712842020-06-26T19:28:52.663+01:002020-06-26T19:28:52.663+01:00Once you've lost trust, it's nearly imposs...Once you've lost trust, it's nearly impossible to get back, and who wants to live like that? Hopefully with family to talk to and listen to and to be there, he'll make the best decision for him.Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15302478126147924237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-20069386096140697942020-06-26T19:27:29.308+01:002020-06-26T19:27:29.308+01:00I know what you mean. I'm still all mama bear ...I know what you mean. I'm still all mama bear with my kid. And I suppose I will be until the day I die. But it's been a lesson in letting go and letting them grow up!Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-50906907388363705432020-06-26T19:25:54.254+01:002020-06-26T19:25:54.254+01:00I think in reality my son would love to be a fathe...I think in reality my son would love to be a father. It's just so tough at the moment. God knows I would fall in love with that little thing from day one!Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-87556323753974051332020-06-26T19:24:17.777+01:002020-06-26T19:24:17.777+01:00I know, so much is up in the air. I just wish I co...I know, so much is up in the air. I just wish I could take his pain away!Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-43257703680793375252020-06-26T19:23:32.733+01:002020-06-26T19:23:32.733+01:00I told him that. He loves his wife so for the mome...I told him that. He loves his wife so for the moment he is totally anti getting married again, but who knows!Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-78238997896024569192020-06-26T19:20:15.317+01:002020-06-26T19:20:15.317+01:00He loves his wife to bits so it is tough. Who know...He loves his wife to bits so it is tough. Who knows what he will end up doing!<br />Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-43211864166939843752020-06-26T17:14:37.424+01:002020-06-26T17:14:37.424+01:00I am glad your set has set some boundaries for his...I am glad your set has set some boundaries for his life. And now he can make whatever decisions he feels he needs to make. It's funny though. We never get out of Mama bear mode when it comes to our kids, even if they re all grown upAnne in the kitchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01533249631969001657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-50488108253904827882020-06-26T16:40:04.511+01:002020-06-26T16:40:04.511+01:00A counselor I used to know said relationships are ...A counselor I used to know said relationships are mot supposed to be like a trapeze-- stay on one until you're embarked on another. He's wise not to settle. What a person has done once, they can do again. She may have done them both a favor, in the long run.<br /><br />I never particularly wanted children until I got pregnant and was joyful with our son. He changed my mind. But I wasn't set against children, and when someone knows they don't want them, I think that's to be respected.Boudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00641013916263271948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4674486998769998428.post-42885108713324614902020-06-26T16:29:42.751+01:002020-06-26T16:29:42.751+01:00Well- who knows? He may get back with his wife, he...Well- who knows? He may get back with his wife, he may settle down into a sort of single life that he enjoys or he may meet a woman who sweeps him out of his senses and with whom he ends up having children. One never knows. Meanwhile, I'm glad he has you to give him good, sensible advice and motherly support. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.com